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Interests: 34 year old Stay-at-home mom with four small children. I love reading books, drinking coffee, taking walks, shopping, & singing. I love laughing and did I mention Coffee?? I love the Lord and Proverbs 31 is my goal. I embrace Motherhood and desire to return to a simple way of life where our home is a sanctuary from the world.
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| By Amanda Fuller
Choosing to homeschool your child is a huge decision. Then add to that a child with special needs. This brings up all kinds of mixed feelings, uncertainties, and emotions. I feel we tend to sell ourselves short when it comes to our children with special needs because this is uncharted territory. However, with research, resources, and much prayer you can do it. Here are ten reasons to homeschool your special needs child.
1. No one knows and understands your child’s needs better than you do.
Who is there when your child is diagnosed with a special need? Who spends a great deal of time at doctor appointments, in therapy sessions, and by their beds when they are sick? You! As parents or guardians of children with special needs, you have been through thick and thin with your child. You know and sometimes understand a need or behavior your child might be experiencing. Your knowledge of his or her needs allows you to modify your child’s schooling based on his or her needs instead of his or her needs having to conform to someone else’s teaching method or classroom rules.
2. Homeschooling provides positive socialization opportunities.
One of the most common questions we hear as homeschoolers is “What about socialization?” Something I have learned over the years is that not all socialization is good or positive—especially for a child with special needs. Developing positive relationships with Mom and Dad is one of the best experiences a child can have in life. With homeschooling you are able to help special needs children nurture and develop positive relationships with others around them. Some of the most positive socialization comes from family and friends of all different ages who help them learn to interact with adults as well as children.
3. There are fewer distractions.
When a special needs child is trying to learn, the last thing he needs is distraction. Most have to work harder to focus on their work, so when you have their attention it is important to keep it. Having them at home gives you the opportunity to keep distractions at a minimum. If you need to take that child into a separate room during instruction time and close the door so that he or she can concentrate better, you can do that. Staggering the teaching time between your special needs child and your other children is helpful.
4. You can provide one-on-one teaching.
Many special needs children require one-on-one guidance throughout their daily lives. This holds true for their education as well. You can sit down face to face with them and take as much time as needed to explain and work through the task at hand. Giving your special needs child one-on-one attention not only can help encourage and improve your relationship, but it also can give him or her a positive school experience. Also it helps you as his or her teacher to be able to see where adjustments and improvements need to be made to personalize your child’s education.
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| 5. It gives you the ability to focus on your child’s strengths—not weaknesses.
Children with special needs face all kinds of challenges. The last thing they need in their education is negativity. You can take the subject or work area that they are strongest in and spend as much time as is needed throughout their day working on this. This can boost their confidence, providing them with an opportunity to say, “Hey, I’m good at this!” instead of feeling frustrated while working on tasks they aren’t ready for. If they have subjects that they are not as strong in or are struggling to comprehend, you can just touch on these subjects briefly throughout the teaching time. Minimize their frustration by focusing more attention on their stronger subjects.
6. Use your child’s interest or compulsive tendencies as educational tools.
My daughter with Down syndrome loves to shuffle cards repetitively on a daily basis. She rarely goes anywhere without them. So, we use them in her education. She has trivia cards that we use for reading and playing cards that we use for number order, number recognition, sequential counting, addition, and subtraction. She loves it because she is getting to use her favorite things while she is doing school.
7. Siblings or other homeschoolers can encourage and help your child with his or her schoolwork.
Siblings are fantastic teachers for your child with special needs. They are fantastic motivators. When your special needs child sees a sibling learning to write in cursive, you may very well hear these words from your special needs child: “I want to learn how to write like that.” You might find yourself teaching your special needs child something you never thought possible. If you don’t have siblings, then you can recruit a fellow homeschooler to spend time with him or her.
8. Personalize self-help and life skills to meet your child’s specific needs.
Each child with special needs has very different needs. If your special needs child is at home, you can identify his or her needs and discern what he or she needs help with to grow up to be as self-sufficient as possible as an adult. If this means that you dedicate an entire school year to teaching him or her how to feed himself or herself with a spoon or how to choose the appropriate clothing to wear for the weather outside, then that should be a part of his or her education that is just as important as math and reading. Children with special needs do have to work harder to accomplish tasks, with lots of repetition and positive reinforcement, and this holds true for self-help and life skills.
9. Teaching morals, values, and manners is also important for children with special needs.
Homeschooling your children gives you an opportunity not only to verbally teach them your family’s morals, values, and manners but also to show them by your example. Just because your child has special needs doesn’t mean that you can’t teach him or her these things too. You want him or her to have every opportunity that life can offer, just like anyone else. If we hold back on teaching our special needs children how to be respectable people in life, then we are selling them short. The instruction might have to be broken down into smaller or simpler lessons, but it can be done. |
| 10. You can share all of the different joys, excitement, and struggles that you and your child may encounter during his education.
Teaching a child with special needs can be rewarding and yet heartbreaking. Special needs children have to work harder at school and life. There is nothing more rewarding than to see your child achieve or comprehend something that he or she has been working on for weeks, months, and possibly even years. To see that joy and excitement after such a struggle is priceless, and with them at home you are right there to share it with them. You get to see the tears of joy and struggle and even shed some yourself.
As a parent of a special needs child, I feel that we have been chosen by God to raise these precious special children. If He has laid it on your heart to home educate them, then He will be there to help guide you through the amazing journey. It may not always be easy, but with much prayer and patience it can be done.
Amanda Fuller and her husband Billy have been homeschooling their two children, the oldest of which has Down syndrome, for seven years. Amanda enjoys spending time with her family and has a newfound love for gardening. For the last ten years, she also has been a support parent for other parents of children with special needs. The Fuller family lives in western North Carolina.
Copyright 2008. Originally appeared in The
Old Schoolhouse Magazine, Summer 2008.
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We are so pleased at the progress Little C is showing this summer. He has finally learned to not only peddle his big wheels but to steer as well. He has some difficulty biking on sidewalks due to the constant attention it takes to keep off the grass so we have been taking them biking where there is a bit more space. It was a real blessing to me to see him peddle with a huge smile on his face!! | | |
| I am enjoying looking out my front window at the green grass and well manicured lawns of my neighbors. I want to plant some flowers but as yet, haven't been able to do it. I also want to have a small vegetable garden this year but am a bit put off by the local pests. We have so many army and fire ants in this area and we use a pest control service which treats our lawn but doesn't totally take care of the problem. I would want it to be an organic garden and don't know how I can keep the ants away. They've taken over the children's sandbox and their are piles of them all over our rear lawn. You have to be careful where you walk as it is pretty easy to get bitten and wow! does it hurt. After having the pest control service treat them twice last month and still having a problem, I don't know what to do. A relative of mine suggested garlic oil. I didn't have any but got garlic powder out of my spice rack and sprinkled it on the piles. It didn't seem to make a difference, except that there was a faint odor of garlic in our yard when it rained or the wind blew. It didn't kill the ants whose nests I sprinkled either. I know pouring boiling water over the ant nests can kill them but there so many in such a small area that after 3 or 4 tea kettles of boiling water, I've only covered a 3 or 4 square foot area so end up giving up. Actually, it kills off the grass in that area too so it isn't desirable if you want your lawn to look nice. So, until I figure out how to keep my lawn ant free, I guess, I'll skip the garden and buy it from the store. Is anyone else having a garden this year? | | |
| Forgive my absence but we are experiencing some computer problems. Somehow, the cookies...no not the edible kind...are messing up our various accounts and so my Xanga and Facebook accounts keep logging me out as I try to navigate around the pages. I don't know how I got on here tonight but I'm taking the chance to say, we are well, homeschooling and still interested in what you all are doing... Hopefully my genius husband can fix our little problem this weekend!!! | | |
| Friday, I had some grocery shopping to do so the children and I went. Victoria and Katherine are anticipating their upcoming birthdays and somehow talked me into buying them balloons. So, after grocery shopping, we crossed the parking lot to a discount store and I bought 4 Shiny Meiler balloons, one for each child. The girls held theirs on our way back to the car but I kept a firm grip on William's and Little Cs while letting them hold the very end of the string. Once they were all strapped into their car seats, I relinquished the balloons to them and was distributing juice boxes when I realized Little C no longer held his balloon in his hands. I looked over my shoulder and saw his shiny silver star floating up into the sky. He didn't act bothered by it although Victoria in particular was very dramatic about it and I heard the tale of the balloon that sailed away at least 5 times in the next 90 seconds. Once everyone was settled, I climbed in the driver seat just in time for the clerk who had checked us out to come running up with a replacement balloon. He said he noticed it had floated away and didn't want my son to feel badly about it. I thought that was really nice and thanked him before driving home. When we got home, Victoria climbed out of the van first. I reminded her to hold firmly to her balloon until she was indoors but I had only just opened the door on the other side of the van before I heard her shrieking, "Get it back, oh, no!!! Get my balloon back". Sure enough, there was the cupcake balloon floating up over the roof and well on it's way into the sky. I said, "Victoria, stop screaming, I will let you have William's balloon"....and just that second Katherine, said "Oh, no! Look, another balloon". This can't be happening.... Somehow in the few seconds when my attention was diverted, William who was still strapped in his car seat, had released his balloon and their the "happy Birthday" Blue shiny balloon was, hoving somewhere over our neighbor's rooftop. Katherine smugly strutted in the front door with her pastel balloon and carried it with her that entire day and the next much to Victoria's chagrin. Maybe we should stick to balloons for birthdays only!!! | | |
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